Internet chats are a new forum for people to hold discussions in this new age of computer technology. Many conversations held range in a variety of topics, so as an example we will assume you are a basketball fan and are unsure what to use for a name. Be screwy. Like call yourself "Slam Dunkie Fiend," or something to that effect. Creativity is the key. If you have an interest in a particular subject try to find a very subtle way of displaying your name. Only a select few who know what it deals with will actually know and will get people asking questions bringing attention to you. This is something that I have done myself.
Remember creativity is the main thing here. Don't go with a name that is just rude, crude, vile, and out-right obnoxious. People will automatically tag you as a pervert and a host of other names taken out of a thesaurus on the word "bonehead," especially if you are in a chat that is a general chat area. Don't do this if you intend on being in the chat for a long time. You will be ignored, considered a hazard, insulted out of the chat, or kicked out by the people or the systems operators overlooking the place.
Striking Up The Right Conversation
The next step is how to talk to people. Saying a nice greeting to everyone is the best way to catch someone's attention. If that doesn't work usually it's best to address someone with a question. For example, to ask someone a question you may want to use this format to do it and to talk to others the same way:
Person's name: Your question
Most of the time you will get someone's attention this way. Try not to yell, this is where you either type in all capitals or use text editing to increase the font size and bold type of your message. In IRC's you can only type in all capitals, there is no text editing. It is another way of getting another chatter to talk to you, but it is considered to be rude unless you have no choice to, which is usually when no matter what you have said in the chat, everyone is still ignoring you even though you have not typed anything rude or insulting.
Doing Actions Within The Chat
Another aspect of chat rooms is doing a particular action within the chat. The format used to do it is like this: **your action here**. You can use as many asterixes as you want when typing these out. The actions you do can be pretty much anything. From hugging an on-line friend to giving someone a cyber-beer to drink. Also you can use the abbreviations previously mentioned also. When in IRC chats there's the "/me" command to do your actions. Just type it in like this: /me your action here, and it will print out your name and the action you just did. Or if you want to do the asterix technique instead in an IRC chat you can do that also. It depends on the person's preference of doing their actions. These sure come in handy when you want to give someone a cyber-smooch or a wedgie from the dark depths of the ocean!
Posting Links And E-Mail
Now during a conversation with someone, they happen to ask for your homepage address or e-mail address, but you don't know how to post it up. This is not a problem. Considering most Internet chats are very lenient with this it's very easy to post up an address. In most cases all you have to do in Internet chats is just type out the web site address' URL, like this:
With e-mail addresses the format is a bit different:
In some Internet chats you may have to employ full HTML coding to post up a web or mail link. Again you will have to refer to any instructions that the chat has on posting links. With IRC chats however just type in the addresses for the person to write down since IRC's are text only and you cannot to from an IRC chat room directly to the world wide web. It's a different program and connection.
Long Distance Relationships
Ahhhhh, cyber-love. Such a new and wonderful concept, that is until you see the person you're talking to in person! **chuckle** Just kidding there folks. While chatting away you may come across someone who happens to have your same interests. And after talking with this person for some time you may become attracted to them and vice versa. It just might be what we call in cyberspace, cyber-love. A lot of people out there have met their significant others through the computers and why shouldn't you? There's just a few things to follow and to keep an eye on. Considering that this relationship maybe over a long distance the chances of you meeting the other person are almost next to none. But don't let this stop you from keeping in contact of each other. Usually people will keep in contact through e-mail, regular mail, and sometimes phone calls. And if you do somehow find a way to meet, hey more power to you! Just keep in mind however that things can happen in a chat just as they do outside. An example would be cyber-cheating. Just as the name implies, cheating can happen on a computer just as in real life. Just read those stories of married people having affairs on-line. All I can say is, cheating through a computer is ridiculous, but unfortunately it happens. And like I mentioned of other stuff happening, they can also be messing around with someone not on-line and totally stabbing you in the back. Just be careful when getting into a long distance relationship with someone, it may seem great and everything, but something just might be lurking under the surface.
If you happen to get into a relationship on-line through a chat always be friendly toward the other person, unless they happen to do something that makes you upset, use whatever means necessary to break off the relationship. If you are looking for a relationship on-line, try a singles chat like Adult Matchmaker Don't go into a chat not truly meant for cyber-love expecting to find the right person immediately. If you do decide to crash a different chat, once again be careful. And finally if you happened to be dragged into a relationship and you weren't intending on getting involved with one, be cordial toward the other person. There's nothing wrong about being friendly. Who knows? Things can develop into wonderful stuff.
Defensive And Offensive Techniques
On occasion you will come across a chatter who will be irate with you on something you said or who just thinks they are "da bomb." Usually this will be the result of a disagreement on a particular subject or something that can believed derogatory to many chatters. Also there is a growing number of chatters who just go into rooms to annoy other chatters. These people will just pick someone out of the crowd and start insulting them for no apparent reason other than to make themselves look cool and that they supposedly know everything. Whether you purposely or inadvertently make some chatter irritable you will need to know how to defend your comments or yourself against such people and how to get back at them.
Pretty much most cyber-fights consist of insulting the other person. How you insult them and how you time the insult is critical in embarrassing the other person. First we will go into on how to defend yourself. First off, firing back in the normal thing to do, but not always. The best defense is to ignore the offending chatter. Usually this will prompt them to continue ranting on how much of a weenie you are on not fighting back. But believe me it is an effective way of dealing with insulting people. Usually some Internet chats will have an ignore box of where you can put someone's name into it and it will not post up their messages unless you say so. IRCs do not have this depending on a room's setup though and normally IRC chat room operators will either kick someone out of the room with a warning or ban them completely.
If you are just dealing with someone who is in disagreement over a comment of yours, you can pretty much remedy the situation very cleanly by being polite and ask them why they disagree. Now if you are in the wrong over your comment then be cordial and apologize about what you said. These are two ways to effectively diffuse a potential "flame war" between you and another or more chatters over something very trivial.
To go on the offensive in a chat room is a little bit different. You can use insults both as an offensive and defensive screen. But pretty much it's more offensive than anything else. :) When dealing with the perpetrator or perpetrators it's a good thing to have a quick and reflexive wit or a very good humorous mind. Spur of the moment humorous and embarrassing insults will usually shut people up and other times it will just aggravate them making the whole situation even worse than before. Another thing is to watch how they do their insults. Don't sink to their level if they use a lot of profanity, very vulgar references, and mama jokes. By matching what they are typing you're saying to everyone else in the chat room that you are just as rude, crude, and vile as they are and don't have much of an imagination.
By using humorous insults people in the chats will start laughing at the intended victim, especially if they were being obnoxious at the beginning. This tactic will also get chatters to back you up against the offending chatter. If you have to get nasty with your insults, get descriptive but don't use profane words if you can help it. Believe me I have gotten very graphic at times to where I pretty much grossed the offenders out and they left me alone after that. And it definitely got some good laughs. :) And there have been times where I knew some chatters defending themselves that too have gotten very graphic to the point where it severally embarrassed the offender or offenders and were left alone after that. There are two more things to keep in mind. One is that if you have a lot of on-line friends, reinforcements in flame wars or cyber-fights really help, especially if they know you personally on-line or in real life. And two try to keep cyber fights and flame wars from spilling into the e-mail. Things can get nasty when e-mail gets involved, like floods and e-mail bombs. If e-mail does become involved just be careful of what you do.
Dealing With Cybersex
Another problem encountered in many chat rooms and it happens to be a rampant thing these days, is cyber sex. This really is just two or more people typing in their fantasies of what they're going to do to the other person. It's a very simple, but an offending concept in most chat circles. Also it's growing in popularity as an alternative to safe sex.
There are a several ways of dealing with someone trying to get you to have cyber sex with them. One, a plain and simple no will suffice and a minor threat following it helps too. Two, reporting the little pervert to the person watching over the chat is one way to get them kicked out. Three, (this happens to be my favorite) you can mess with their minds by acting like you want to engage in the act and then start saying some funny stuff that will embarrass them. If you can totally make fun of them for doing this and turning their keyboard fantasy into a complete farce it is well worth the laugh. And four, you can engage in this at your own free will. If you do decide to engage in cyber sex just make sure it is not against the rules to do something like this in the chat room you're in. Numerous chatters on-line have come up with some humorous reasons of why people engage in cyber sex. Some of them included that the chatters doing this act are uglier than sin and cannot get a date, they spend too much time on the computer and not enough time away from it, and it's a safe way of not getting infected with a sexually transmitted disease.